Who Said Life Doesn't Come With an Owner's Manual?

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0:54 It's number one internet radio station. Here's your host, the fight Man. Yo. It's Motivational Monday. Here on the Adventures of Pipe Man. W four c Y Radio W four c Y dot com. And Wow. Today is a great show because we're going to feature my book. And before we talk about that, let's bring the pipe nuts on. Come on down, pipe Nuts, hola hola. So we have we have Florida representing, and then uh another Florida representing and then Canada. Do you have like.

1:35 Do we have like that? Do we have like sound effects uh for Canada Studio. That I can see here? Oh? Sorry, I hate the wrong one. I think that's well, I think that's kind of feel right now though. Yeah, I think that's a good representation. So I know, here's the thing. Okay, we're gonna talk about my book today, because like, who said life doesn't come with an owner's Manual? I remember being a kid, and so my grandmother always he saying line doesn't come with an owner as a Manuel? And so many people said that in my generation. So I decided, I'm like, well, that's bull crap. I'm gonna make one. So I made one, okay, and it's called who Said Life Doesn't come with an Owner's Manuel? And it is available in a store and you can get it on Amazon or what have you.

2:39 But basically it's a it's this if you can. Yeah, so I'm all frozen. So you'll see it in a few seconds. Uh, look at that. My video sucks one, Okay, so yeah, the internet is terrible. Okay, there we go. That's better one. And Wan, you look really good now. I know it looks like I'm ripped, right. Yeah, I gotta tell you about this cover, not the pipe man there in the in the in the ocean. Well, that's so funny because so many people through the years have said to him like, uh no, but I am on the back of the book. I'm on the back there there, I am right there. It's hard to figure out which way to go with the camera. Uh So. Anyway, basically, this is your personal guide to success, freedom, and happiness, not the freedom they're talking about today. I wrote this long before all this bull crap about I should have the freedom to be a jerk off. I should have the freedom to be nasty to people. I say, you should have the freedom to be nice to people, is what I say. Okay, Like, it's just I don't know.

4:00 I think the world needs to the whole world needs to go to a motivational seminar, because you know they're following, like they're really following times of Macavelli and Sun Sioux. Okay, And although The Art of War is one of my favorite books for and it's great for business and great for negotiations, some of it doesn't necessarily apply to friendships or people or how you treat people or how people are around the world. And like, I don't know. That. I think I don't think it's a coincidence that right now, in this period of time in the world, that they legalize marijuana and at the same time are take taking away some of our freedoms. When I say taking away some of our freedoms, it's the freedom to not be an asshole. That's the freedom. I think.

4:54 You know which freedom I want enforced? What's that? The fifth? From everybody? Everybody takes to the earth, everybody like, you. Know, my should we explain this one for our Canadian friend? I know we don't have we don't have that, but you know what the fifth is. It means that you have the right to say nothing. Correct yes, which is the stupidest thing ever because like anybody that ever pleads the fifth end court of law, you already know they're guilty because attic. Or it could be that no matter what you say, you're always going to sound guilty even if you're not.

5:36 Yeah, you know what was interesting is situations. I was just watching a mafia documentary and basically, okay, it talked about how you know, the mafia people put in JFK into you know, that's the president, and then you know, basically I thought about it, and I'm like, hmm, it's very interesting. Is it possible that that is happening today but not mafia people?

6:20 Yeah, some other behind the scenes organization that's. Pleasing for today, or the twenty twenty five version of the Mafia tech giants. Oh, the Maple Mafia. Have you heard of them? That? Are they related to maple man I don't know. Tell us about the maple Mafia. Well, it's this apparently there's like a. You know, with maple syrup. It's like a. Monopoly in the maple syrup world, Like it can get rough and tough, like bourbon and stuff. Well, here's something I have to say, and I would say it's straight though's face or somebody used to work at the station also had a show at the station, a theater show. I always used to bust his chops because this dude was more into theater than any any gay person. I can tell you that, Okay. Like, and one day we were going to cover an event and he puts on Broadway shows in the car with me, and I just looked at him. I'm like, you know, you don't really drive in the car listening to Broadway shows and sing them. He started singing them with two straight dudes. Don't do that, okay, And like I always used to buss his chops. He wasn't straight because he would bring his mother to the theater because he didn't have a date too, you know, so I would always bus.

7:43 We called him the mayor of Pipeland. He was. He would also come on this show as the mayor of Pipeland. Okay. And he because I used to make fun of him because he's about the sides and has a similar voice to the Uh, we went like welcome you don't leap up, lamb pal lamb. Yeah and nothing. I haven't said straight to his face in real life or on the radio. Okay, but he texted me yesterday he was actually near the studio. He was seeing if I was there, he was gonna pop by. I should have had him come by so we could see who was taller him or one, just so I can make fun of him. Uh and uh So anyway, because none of us are tall, none of the men at talk for media are tall.

8:37 You should see me on high heels. I yes, that's what I want to see when I meet. Yeah, when I meet women are taller than me and they're they're a little like they're a little like weirded about. I'm like, don't worry about it. I'm taller than you in high heels, so you know. It's like I wear the heels in this relationship. Okay, I know, right, So, but seriously, so, I don't even know why I was bringing him. Up, he texted you the other day.

9:17 No really, I do. I do know why I brow him up. Seriously. So here's something interesting. He is in one of those secret societies he got in while he was working for the station, and I'm here to tell you. And he's like, now like higher up the ladder in it. If he's representative of these secret societies, none of us have anything to worry. He's not like tough. He's a Jewish mama's boy. And I could say that I'm a Jew, so many of you people say that now. But he is a mama's boy. He's total what you imagine of a Jewish son. That's him, And kudos him. He's really nice to his mother, and he's really good to his mother.

10:03 But you know, he he doesn't he's not a dangerous individual. So we're talking like Howard from the Big Bank theory. Yeah, yeah, yeah, very similar, very very very similar. And his mom works right by us in the studio by the studio there, so like maybe she does massage, she does massage therapy. I'll send her, I'll send you over to her one. I'll send her into his studio while you're doing the show. Make sure the door is locked. She'll come in and start just giving you a massage while you're doing showing and'll be like what the fuck, and it'll be Wednesday, So there you go. Seriously, though, you know, he is in one of those secret societies the I don't even know if I'm allowed to say.

10:56 He's a Mason and the ones that supposedly control the world is one of those societies that controls the world. And like, there's no way if they're all like him, they're controlling the world. It's just not. Everyone knows the Reptilians are the ones who control the world. Yeah, well yeah they are. They I think the Reptilions are Masons. Yeah, but I did used to give him crap for it because he's a Jew and Jews don't become Masons. It's basically a secret Christian society. Like, what's wrong with you? Well, it's not it's not Christian. No, it's not God. Yeah, I guess so.

11:38 One's done his research doing. Most Jews don't believe in Pooh poohbas and hanging out at elk Elk's clubs. What's a Pooba? It's the graand Puba of the Masons, just like on the Flintstones, it's the leader, the Grand Pooba. You never watched The Flintstones in Canada? I take it, Ah, yeah, I just don't remember. I guess like I add a one oh man, Yeah, the Flintstones with see if you can pull up a scene that we can show Nicole of Flint like flint Flintstones and with Fred becoming the Grand Pooba or talking to Graham Pooba or something like that, and I'll talk a little bit more about the book here, because here's the thing. Okay, we're gonna we just had an episode recently.

12:37 The Road of success is constantly under construction. I used to have a really cool poster that I might even not stow up in storage, But you know, I think that's where we're at in the world right now. I think we're reconstructing the world, is what we're doing. And in any kind of reconstruction. There's a lot of things that happen. They're you know, just like Okay, so in order to succeed, you must be willing to fail and probably will fail. Plenty of times people don't just succeed, They fail, fail, fail, fail, then they succeed. Even when it comes to selling customers. Do you know that it takes seven TH's to get to a yes? Did you know that? Health not?

13:26 Well, I know a similar concept like seven eleven. How it got their name? Oh yeah, to tell because I was really about to make fun of you when you were comparing it to seven eleven. So now a I here before I make fun because it may be a good story. I'm pretty sure it's because those are the business hours. They open from seven am to eleven pm. No, come, it is kind of like tiketos. You know you can only get those after eleven pm. Well, it is kind of how things work. Okay. You know Motel six, that's why they're called Motel six because their rooms were originally six dollars, and then the Super eight there's were eight dollars. Now you know, you can't even get it for six hundred and sixty six dollars.

14:15 The motel eight. All right, so tell us about the seven eleven. Yeah, no, it's just something similar, like it takes people an average of seven times, maybe two eleven times to let something like sink in, you know, or let it become a I didn't think you got to here. So in that all I thought you were like talking about it takes like seven orgasms until you've done or something where you're going with it. But I like that better. So is that with seven In marketing, there's there's been research that says potential client has to see or hear by your brand twelve times before they can even remember who you are. Uh huh exactly. That's absolutely true. And that's where that seven nose comes in, you know, because because basically people also when it comes into sales, they're programmed to say no, So you got to kind of get it out of them, and that's why it kind of is. And you know, the thing is most salespeople that do not succeed, it's because they don't go far enough. They didn't get past that seven no's, They quit at two or three, you know.

15:24 And really the people that are going to be your best clients that do business with you are the ones that are going to follow that rule. It's not the ones that say yes to you right away, it's the one the people that give you the hardest time are usually it's your best. It just in playing like in playing terms. The people who play hard to get. Oh yeah, totally. But it's not about the playing hard to get. It's more about the fact that it's it's their own protection because they know they're easily sold. The people that are the biggest hard hard at you, you know, they're the ones that are easiest to be sold, and they know it, so they put up this defense mechanism, whereas the other people they are just stroking you. That's the word we call in sales stroking, because they're telling you everything you want to hear, and they're full of crap.

16:21 They're doing whatever they have to to get you off the phone is or out of their business or however you met with them, you know. And so the easiest way to get rid of a salesperson, by the way, and the reason they do that is to say yes, did you know that? That's the easiest way to get rid of a salesperson because they basically if you just say yes, they don't try to overcome the objection, then they say call me back in a week, and then you can never reach them again. Like it gets them off the phone. They know if they say no to you, you're going to keep them on the phone. So the thing is the same. It's true in relationships. How many times do people have romantic relationships and the guy didn't get the date the first time he asked, or the female didn't get the guy the first time she flirted with him. Do so it happened to you? What's good?

17:24 We'll start with we'll start with studio that okay, haven that somebody else? Not on purpose though, no, so you've on. My end on I'm always very straightforward, Like I'm always very straightforward. If the answer is yes, yes, if it's no, it's not like I don't do that. The matter of that, it's not a matter of a game. It's just a matter of you know, if it's too easy, it's not necessarily real. Like even my brother's mother her third marriage was her best marriage of all, and that was like her soulmate. And she tells me the stories like it took a few years before she felt that way, Like at first she didn't even like the dude at all, Like, and you know that I found that in my life, like the women that I date that are the ones that were the easiest to ask out are the ones that are not the right one. Not because they were easiest, because they weren't being real right from the get go.

18:34 You know. They they were like just saying yes to placate you. You know, because a lot of times people do that. They don't want to hurt other human beings, so they say yes and stuff instead, And that's what they do in sales. That's how those people that stroke you justify it because if you call them out on it, they're like, well, I didn't want to hurt your feelings because like I'll do that. They'll say to me on the phone, well, call me back next Wednesday. I'm like, listen, I see, I'm the type I'll say that no other salesperson will say, and I'll say, you know that's not going to happen. You know that you're just saying this to me to get rid of me. And it's actually a good strategy to be honest, because it works because then they're like, oh, you know, and then they actually do open up and listen a little bit. But but they say, yeah, you're right, you know, And it's no different than listen, if you ask somebody out and they say maybe, that means no, they just don't want to hurt your feelings. Now, that doesn't mean it wouldn't change later. So that's the point I'm getting at. You know, not everybody you meet do you have that with right from the get go. You know, sometimes it just you get to know the person. You grow on each other or what have.

19:55 You or in each other. Yeah, well that's for Wednesdays. Okay, not no, sorry, Well it could be motivation, you know, it could be someone's motivation. What is motivation to get eaten? Bro? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, is that your motivation? No? Oh, not what it could be someone? So has this happened to you or have you, on the other hand, you know, been the the deliverer of that. Deliver of bad well of saying no, yeah, and I can.

20:35 I am, you know, a chronic people pleaser. So I have been in situations where I have said yes, you know, or maybe to kind of placate to someone, not hurt someone's feelings. But I've definitely gone you know, I'm growing out of that, learning and growing because it's not really that beneficial, you know, for any party, but sometimes, you know, especially when it comes to dating, I think if you know right away, you're gonna just be honest. Even you said no, like steal keeps coming back. I guess that's human nature because it's like, no, I really meant no, so there's no more chance.

21:16 So I'm interested. Yes, no, So let me. Ask you a question. So when it's been done to you, let's let's take the one part. If they say yes to you, Okay, how does it make you feel when it turns out to be no and they were just not wanting to hurt your feelings? Yeah, that sucks. I'd always be like I'd always think I'd rather have just been like know from the start, so I can you know from the other side, then it's I like to you know, be like that. If it were me, i'd want honesty. So the way that I look at it is more like, yes, you're hurting their feelings, but think of how much more you would hurt them if you told let them believe something that is not true or something that's never going to happen. Totally totally think I would rather come off as an asshole. Than to actually be an asshole.

22:15 Yeah, well what you find out is you are being like you said, you're not really being an asshole. It's just they're perceiving you as an asshole because they're not getting what they want. Either way. You know, much work then you're but so people aren't doing it because they're trying to be mean, but really they are. And I think that's something that people have to know that you're not really being nice. I've told that to people before, Like that's not being nice. You're leading somebody on. That's not being nice. And sometimes you know, you gotta like, like you said before, things can grow on you and maybe you're just not.

22:59 Is it. You know, like so at first maybe it's a maybe or yes because I'm curious, you know, I think that's but see. Yes should be for curious, Maybe should be for curious. Okay, yes means you're into it. Being curious means you're not really sure. If you're into it, you'll see And that's what you should say to somebody. Mm hm, whether it's in business, you know, like in business, nothing pisses me off more than people that say yes to me to have no intention of doing business with me. That's worse than getting rejected, way worse, because you waste my time, you get somebody's hopes up. You know, there's even people out there in the business world, sales world, that they change their life based on those answers. Like I'm the type of person like I don't believe a deal is a deal until I spent the commission check. That's kind of my motto, meaning you know somebody that's gonna stroke me, and I get off the phone with them, and I'm like, oh, that's a deal, and I go out and I buy something because I just because salespeople do that, they make a commission, they go, I buy something, and then when you call them back you can't get hold of them and stuff like that because it really wasn't a yes, and they're very convincing. The people that do that are very very convincing, you know. I always try to force them,

24:30 know out of those people, like I love when people give me a lot of resistance on a sales call because it means they are interested. It just means you haven't told them anything yet that makes them want to say yes. But they are interested. They're waiting for you to give them some ammunition. Oppose to the other person, Oh yeah, that's the greatest thing, and like, oh yeah. Like I can't tell you how many times when I've told people my normal rate, say oh, that's nothing, they're always the ones that don't have money any of it. I found that in the financial business, all the people that talk like they have a lot of money have zero.

25:12 All the people that have a lot of money don't say anything. So it's the same thing there. Okay. I used to have people I call up and I'm like, you know, you need a minimum of one hundred thousand dollars for this investment. Oh yeah, it's no big deal. And I would get people say like that. Those were the people that just never had the money, and I would eventually just say, toh, mo'm I like, just be straight with me and just tell me you don't have the money instead of tell me what you think I want to hear. Yeah, well, and that's what happens. They'll give you these reasons that they think it's justified, you know. So.

25:52 I think one of the things about sort of succeeding in business and life is having proper coming a case, and to me, proper communication means being very straightforward to where the other person doesn't have to assume, figure out or understand, they just do understand because you're being so clear about and we do speak different languages, whether we're from different places, have different ethnicities, different genders, you know, because our minds work differently. So I think that's one of the things in an owner's manual is. From the same You could be from the same place exactly the same place in you know, just different generations totally, and you would still think differently exactly.

26:41 So you can't ever assume or you can't ever leave anything gray in those in communication, because that's when you'll get to gray or the withholding information. Like I'm going to say right now, and I'm not saying that I have any negativity. More of an example of what we're talking about. You know, when I got divorced from Thing one, she says to me, I really hope you find what you're looking for, because you're like the most romantic person I ever met. I'm just not into that. Okay, well you were into it the last twelve years or you faked it, And if you faked it, you're stupid.

27:23 You know. And that's really what it comes down to, is no that isn't who she's about. And that's okay. Everybody's about different things. Just because somebody's different from you doesn't make them wrong. And that's the problem with society right now. Okay. Everybody has different variables, whether it be where they grew up, where they're from, where they've been, what their education is, what their jobs have been, who their friends have been, who their family has been. There's so many variables that make people believe what they believe. So maybe find out why people think the way they do instead of attacking them like we do today and calling them names because they're different than you. I don't want the whole world to be just like me. Okay, that would be kind of boring. I think we should be different, you know.

28:15 And the fact is we should think differently because that's how we learn from each other. This whole thing of only listening to one news station and only having certain people like I talk to people I know, and I'm like, they'll say something like, I only want people that believe what I do on my on my feed, and I will only be friends with people that think exactly like I do. Who is never like that in the world, And to me, that's dumb. How do you grow? How do you learn things? How do you even learn your own thing? Like, to me, talking to somebody as an opposite viewpoint in me will either teach me that my viewpoint may be wrong or may need changing, but it also might also confirm my viewpoint to me, you know.

29:07 And so the whole idea of just being around people that think just like you do, act like just like you do. You know, It's one thing if there's somebody that would be very hateful towards you, but personally, I don't give a crap who but somebody voted for I more care about how they are as a person and why they voted that way. That's an example, because maybe they have the reasons. I know people in twenty sixteen that vote for Trump that didn't like Trump, and certainly we're not Republicans, but they voted for Trump because they were in industry that if Hillary was elected with dropped their income down a third to a third. So yeah, if you have a family that you have to take care of, you might vote in a way. Hey, that's going to feed your family, and that doesn't make you a jerk off, it makes you somebody taking care of your family, and maybe you should have the time to sit down have a conversation with these people to find that out, to maybe understand, you know, because you're just assuming it's their values, because that's what everybody assumes every day.

30:20 Your values are who you vote for. It's not always the case. And yeah, there's a lot more like tangible pieces that go into what people do things for. No doubt about it. And most these people that vote, they don't really know the person or their values or any of that. They just think they do, you know, but they're voting for other reasons, you know. Yeah, and there's only like so many to choose from, you. Know, like well exact decisions. Yeah. I think my lesson is is like the world's gone mad to where we're so mean to each other. And look like I saw something I shared on my Facebook the other day that talked about my generation and when we were younger. Okay, so you could vote for Carter, I could vote for Reagan. And after the election's over, we aren't attacking each r more. We're not fighting or arguing with each anymore, and we're just united. That's the way it used to be. If you look back to.

31:29 One remember in times like that. You know, everything got very divided over the last few years. Oh yeah, it's part of the plan, you know. Yeah, of course, you know, that's how they get to get everything. Yeah. To me, all the politicians left right, sideways, upside down, I don't care. They're all on the same team and it ain't mine. Yeah, it's so true, exactly, I know. And I want to know who decided and together, Well, I don't know who decided this, but and has nothing to do specifically with any president now, just in general.

32:10 Years ago, everybody used to say, oh, we should have a businessman as president, and I said no then, and I say no now, because a businessman's primary motive is profit and benefits. So there's no way they could be the president of the United States of America and not consider how they could benefit from that. And that's not a bad thing. It's just that's why they shouldn't be president. It should truly be a public servant, somebody that has nothing to gain by it except to work for the country, you know. And is there anybody like that out there?

32:50 Probably not. But the business person is the least likely person, and not because they're a bad person. It's because that's what you're trained in your career. That's how you run something. And that's why people want businessmen to run the country because they think the country is a business. It's not a business. If you went to college, you would find out that government and business are run completely differently, and if you ran a government like a business, it would not be good. And well yeah, because then there's room for like you know, you can pay someone off and stuff like that. I mean, money talks nothing that you have. Businessmen ask advisors, yes.

33:32 But they're still it's what their motive is. So their motive is always going to be profit and benefits period like. So if they may, let's put it this way, if they're going to give you advice, are they going to give you advice that's going to affect their business positively or negatively? They're not going to do it just totally from the individual, I don't think. So it's not gonna be selfless. Why are they going to give us selfless advice that could possibly ruin their company? Think about it? Is there a way of feeding their family? Okay? So, like if you were giving advice to the Prime Minister of Canada and that advice would cause you to no longer be a practitioner of traditional and Chinese medicine. Would you necessarily give that advice?

34:38 No, But if you know, if someone came to if someone came to me and you know, with something, and I felt someone was better suited for it, I would I would share, you know, refer you know, at the end of the day, I want what's best for for everybody, So sometimes I'll sacrifice the business for if I you know, I think it could be better for them. Sure, well, but what kind of sacrifice? So like sacrifice if you're sacrificing your whole career, not. Whole career, it was a whole career move, then yeah, No, for sure, I'd be like, you know, motive, but on a smaller scale, like in the day to day. You know, there are times where you'll be selfless like that. I think that's also a good practice and makes you like trustworthy.

35:33 Less is good. I'm not saying, but you know, there's certain areas people are selfless and they're certain or not because they can't afford to be. Can you afford to lose your whole career right now and start completely over right this second? Probably not be tough and probably you would weigh that the benefit of your advice would not be worth that risk, you know, And right now, take it a step further, Okay, you take somebody that they're I mean, think about it. Here's a perfect example, not that it's happening, but Tesla was not doing very well at all before this election, still not doing great. But it's amazing how all these people were that were Tesla haters are now all of a sudden, the ones that think they're the greatest thing since crushed dice. And guess what those are the people that have the money to buy the more expensive ones. All my liberal friends by the cheapest teslater is, and all of my conservative friends drive that ugly cynical thing that is like super expensive. Yeah, it's the ugliest thing ever. And I can tell you

37:04 I see them everywhere. Now, everywhere, and I can assure you it's. Not liberals buying those. I can assure you. That, yeah, it was an Asian lady driving this one. Say yeah, yeah. So the point is, okay, like, and it doesn't mean somebody is not doing for the better good, but they're going to do for the better good and benefit themselves at the same time. Whereas if you take a true public servant, they don't. It doesn't affect their livelihood or their career. Usually people that do public service, their career has nothing to do with that public service. It's you know, the ones that are truly doing public service. I'm not talking about people that go into politics, because most people, by the way, go into politics for exactly those reasons.

37:58 More money, more benefits to their business or their own life, and if they could help some people along the way, great, you know. That's more so like the part of the business that is like, Okay, this is going to make me feel good about my decisions. Mm hmm. Yeah, it's like balance it out. Yeah, totally so. But I think again, I think we all need to communicate, and communicate properly. A cert of communication makes a difference. And I think you're absolutely correct. And I think instead of being negative, instead of attacking, instead of name calling, what are you accomplishing? I want to know what these people are accomplishing out there in the world that are being just total jerk offs. I mean, what are they really accomplishing there? It's not helping their business, it's not helping their personal life. They're angry all the time, so it's not helping their mental health. Okay, so I have this philosophy that's in this book here who said life doesn't come with an owner's manual? And of course in my slow learnet, I don't know when it's showing it or not.

39:21 There's lots of oceans, I thank you. And so basically one of my things is think as if and act as if. And it is think as if you're already where you want to be, and then act as if you're already where you want to be. And the reason for that is because it's a GPS. So if you would like to be let's say, let's say you wanted to climb Mount Everest and that's a goal yours, well, you have no clue how to do that. You have no clue it's about so you could just go try like that and probably would not succeed. But when you think as if or act as if, you know, like it's a it's a step up from the fake it till you make it thing, and the fake it till you make it does work under certain circumstances. But there's more to it than just faking it till you make it. It's actually believing it's not faking it. Like, if you already believe you're successful, your brain will give you the roadmap of how to get there. But if you already think that you're going to be a failure, your brain will give you that too, and the perfect way.

40:41 You know, it's funny. I was just watching some surf videos of this one people teaching this guy teaching how to be better at riding the face and doing pop ups, and one of the examples he gave was a similar thing as what I'm doing right now. He did a u in the video of riding a bike. If you ride a bike and you look at the pedals while you're riding a bike, guess what's going to happen. You'd probably run into a tree or something. And that's what happened. He ran into a tree. And in surfing, it's very much like that. The surfboard goes wherever you look, You go wherever you look. You it's so slight that most people don't notice it. But even when you're walking, have you ever noticed when you're looking towards the left that you start walking that way, even if it's just a little bit, you're you're no longer walking straight it's always like that. It's like that, And so it's like that with surfing. You look where you want to go. If you look down, you're going to wipe out. They say it all the time. If you look down at your board, your or your feet, you're going to wipe out. Look where you want to go. And it's amazing because when you do look where you want to go, that's exactly where the surfboard goes. Well, that's the whole concept of the think of as if, and even more so act as if, because then you are always looking at where

42:14 you want to go. In life, you're not looking behind you, you're not looking to say you, you're looking at where you want to go, and air go, it's much easier to get there, and if you have the roadmap to get somewhere, it's also much easier to get there. Our brain works as if. It always wants to be right. So whatever you tell your brain, it's going to be right. So all these people are angry, attacking, they're right, but they're making it right. But what if they change your attitude? What if they change your thought process, and most importantly, what if they didn't give a crap so much about what other people do that doesn't affect their life in any way, shape or form. Like that blows my time.

43:04 Blows my mind how much time that they spend on that kind of stuff, the stuff that is negative to their life, that has no impact on. That Like I think we have. I don't know how many actual fresh new ideas come in per day, but usually everything's just on you know, hamster wheel, repeat thoughts, repeat beliefs, repeat experiences. Like you know, we're all just operating off of ways we have in the past. It's just what we do, what we know. You know. It takes effort to shift just yeah, yeah, I mean, it would be great if we could have like, you know, the mind what do they call that mind flare or something.

43:50 That wipes your memory? Right? Please please look look at the light. Yeah, exactly. You know, sometimes I wish I could do that. You know, are the what's that movie. Men in Black? Eternal No Eternal Sunshine, Cursed all this mine or something or the guy like wipes his memory. Only Canadians would come up with a name for a movie that's that long. Yeah, it's like a dark remember the name you just said it two seconds ago. Yeah, I know, it's like etched in my memory. Now, yeah, I think they they did some kind of mind tricks in there. So one messaging.

44:34 Oh of course they do everything does Okay, So you know, why are the serial killers? I'm trying to remember which one they actually did that. They were showing a video in the courtroom and they put in subliminal messages that they knew would make the defendant react and yeah, that's how they got their guilty ordic because he lost his crap and wow, and the truth came out right in the courtroom. Whoh crazy.

45:14 So here's the thing too. You know they have that movie Scrooge where you go to Christmas pass or whatever. I've had that experience. I think everybody should have that experience somehow, and you could create that experience for yourself. This book is a perfect example. It's published in two thousand and three, and there's stuff I read recently that I'm like, wow, what insight not of the book? And I'll share it with you, But like, okay, here's a beautiful thing. Like in the beginning book, I put my oldest daughter, she was a poet when she was a kid, and I put one of her poems in here, and here you go with perception because I love, love, love this poem and she's like, Dad, why do you put that in there? Is like one of my worst poems.

46:02 And it is from when she was in first grade. She wrote this in first grade and it's it's called I Dream I Can fly. I dream I can fly like the graceful birds. Read with these sunglasses on. I dream I can fly like the graceful birds in the sky. I lie at night in my bed thinking about the sweet dreams in my head. Through tonight. I dream I see a light from the view up above. Oh how I would love for the fresh wind to pull me up. Oh how I would dream to fly. But until then I will try goodbye, goodbye. Until I can visit you from up above, I will lie. So you know what I get about out of that first grade is why we should should leave the kids to frick alone. Okay, Like we talk about kids, you know, and their energy, and we get all riled up about their energy, and then we also say, who should that energy? You know?

47:11 And they have that energy, and we're like we have to discipline them or medicate them or whatever so that they act like an adult. They're not adults or kids they're innocent, and maybe you should listen to some of their thoughts, is my viewpoint, because right there, what that tells me is she had dreams and she realizes maybe I'll get those dreams. Maybe I won't, but I'm certainly going to try to get those dreams. And that's something everybody should learn from. And so you know, there is some funny stuff. Okay, so let's do a little of that. I'm there to read something to you, and I want to hear what both of you think from that. I have to find it though it's in the dedications.

48:00 But that was deep though, because I know in first grade I was fighting other kids for marbles. Literally, a kid was trying to steal my marbles and so I had to fight them. Yeah, I love Right, that's pretty insight. Yeah, you're probably about seven or so, right. Six six? So how I guess I guess you would know from that that she she uh was the daughter of a motivational speaker. Pipe Man didn't even exist then, by the way, pipe Man became this anomaly.

48:43 Yeah, what's the origin story? Next time on Motivational Monday. Yeah, I've told the origin story a few times. Okay, I'm gonna take the sunglasses off again. Okay, I'm gonna read first. I'm going to read this, uh, this dedication, and you tell me who you think it's from and what you could read into it. I want to see. This is about proper communication too, because you know, proper communication means the other person interprets it exactly the way you're meaning it, or they can read into it and know what you're meaning. So this one says Dean has been more than a great husband, father to his four children, our four children, I'll say, or I was going to change it, but I won't change it. He has been a true inspiration and role model. I have seen the transformation in so many lives that he has touched. He is truly passionate about helping others, whether it's in his professional life or home life. He is always eager to lend a hand with a smile. Well, y'allready know who that is. Okay, so now what do you read into that?

49:56 Because I know exactly what that says. We'll let studio not go first. Let's hear the male side. I wasn't paying attention. What was it? No, I don't know, it's it's you know, knowing how that ended. I think. It's hard to say, but you know, maybe it wasn't truthful. No, but you're getting close, okay, health not. Mmm, well, I think there's a lot behind behind that, right, you know, I.

50:41 Don't think there's a lot behind it. I think it. I'll tell you. We're just like behind your like, oh yeah, sure, if you want to. Just tell no, I'll tell I want to hear your end first, That's what I'm saying. Yeah, because we don't know like the whole history. Well, I don't know. I don't think you have to know the history. D don't have to see what I mean. That's that's like an appreciative, appreciative sometimes when we actually stop and reflect on like the difference someone makes in our lives. You know, some you're so Canadian it is. That was like the nicest perspective you could have gotten. That was so because. Tell you Okay, so now let me tell you what I see in that. Okay, First of all, I got divorced in two thousand and four. This was two thousand and three, well published in two thousand and three, written close to that. Okay, that with somebody that was telling the truth. No, I do think telling the truth about me as a person with zero emotion and zero vested interests.

51:50 It was just a very matter of fact, you know, with almost not generic but totally generic. But yeah, like call mark, yeah. Well not even hallmarking more of this is really what I think of him as a person, especially as it pertains to being an author of a book. But there was nothing that said there this is the love of my life or soulmate or whatever, or this is even my husband. Like except for the fact that she said it, it really didn't like that's not how you would talk about your husband when writing a dedication.

52:31 You know. It's kind of the way I look at very non emotional, matter of fact, no feeling. And I'm not even saying that a bad way. It just proves we shouldn't have been together because that was her all along. That was her all along because as women, no, I'll tell you why it is because they all listen, women love to use this term and men hate it because we don't like it at all. But it is kind of true when they say it, we love you, but we're not in love with you, And there is such a huge fundamental difference there.

53:12 Do women only say that or. Men don't usually say that to women. Men are like, I'm just not into you, or ghost to you or something. Men don't sit there and say to you, I love that's it like a cop outline. I told that to think too when I was gay and when I got married to her, and she's like, oh, that's just something women say, that's bullshit, and then she said it to me too. So the way the way I see it's it's always a level down. So I love you, but I'm not in love with you means you're a nice guy, but you're not my type. Exactly about you and your ex wife. You don't give me anymore.

53:54 Men don't say this. Ex wives say it though. They're like, don't even say their kids. Oh, always love your father, you know, and there will always be a special place in my heart for him. And we just go that is the biggest bullshit line. I don't think it's not true. I think it doesn't make you feel better. I think it makes you feel Okay, it may be true. Okay, what it's saying is you're just saying like everybody else in my life, is what it's really saying, Because everybody in their life like they love them to some degree, whether it's your friends or whatever. But one hit the nail on the head, you know. So we almost have to end here, but I want to end it on a positive note. So we'll start with the youngest, Rachel, who was seven at the time. Okay, not the poet that her older sister was, because she wrote one line, my dad respects me. He is very nice because he treats me great. That sounds so much like a seven year old, that'sn't it. It's like, so that was like that was about as much as you would get out of a seven.

55:20 Year old and you didn't even have to give her candy. Oh wait, wait a minite. That wasn't a seven year old. That was Jessica. That was the eleven year old. Okay, so again preteen. Yeah, that that actually makes sense because it's like at that point you're like, yeah, leave me alone, dad, I'm hanging out with my girlfriends and like that kind of thing. Okay, So, oh no, that was that was Rachel. Okay, So here's Jessica. Okay. My dad is so helpful to everyone. He is successful in every way. He loves what he does, and everybody loves what he has done. For them. So that's the eleven year old. Then there's the poet who signed it daughter and Poet, like Rachel signed Daughter, Jessica sign daughter Leah signed Daughter and Poet Leah seventeen. When I was young, you cared for me and always helped me through life. I remember watching movies and playing some kind of game. I have put you through a lot, but your love remains the same. She's still rhyming. I would lie down to bed and you would tuck me in.

56:41 That is the way a real daddy is supposed to be. You would take me to the mall and buy me what I want. That wasn't such a smart move. You would carry me on your shoulders. You would always flaunt me. Put you put me in gymnastics, you would it helped me perfect a skill. Spending a day with Daddy was always my greatest thrill. I got a little older, made a mistake or two, but Daddy, I want to say, I really love you. Social media. Yeah, and then there was Derek, so we'll get the male Derek eighteen. For as long as I can remember, my dad has been a stand up person. He is someone I can relate to and has been a good influence to me. My dad has been there for me through thick and thin, to help me in all areas of my life. All of our experiences caused me to think the world of him.

57:40 For these reasons, I am proud to call him Dad. Now see those top two, the two older ones. They tell you about the communication between males and females and how they communicate differently, you know, and you could totally tell. If I didn't tell you who it was, you could totally tell one was a male and one was a female. I could tell, you know, especially that age, you know, So that that's a lesson that we need to learn how other people communicate. We need to beat, you know, listen to people, not hear them. Listening is so much different than hearing. You can hear what people say, but listen to what they're really trying to say to you.

58:22 And on that note, we got to go because we are so out of time. So go to Amazon. Look up who said life doesn't come in own? There's Manuel by Dan Kate Piper. You could get in a hard book, I mean hardcover, paperback ebook. I was just trying to say hard book, and I mean I was trying to say it hard and Ebook at the same time, Hardy Book Book. It's like the Hardy Boys, Nancy. R do it. Well, we got to run because iwise we're gonna interrupt another show. So this has been another version of I don't know if it's my Vational Money Monday or Manic Monday, or maybe it's Moivational Money Monday. I don't know, but it's The Adventures Pipeline Magic Monday, and we are I am right now. I am right now at the NAB conference, and when I get back in a couple of days, we're gonna talk what happened there, because there's so much cool stuff going on and so much happening, and so much that's going to be great for this show and the station. So stay tuned. Tune into The Adventures pipe Man one pm Eastern Time, Monday Tuesday Wednesday here on W four c Y Radio, W four c Y dot com, roll it one.

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